Counselling and Psychotherapy
"Life is suffering", this is the First Noble Truth according to Buddhist tradition.
Most of us, at some point in our journeys through life, encounter periods of great unhappiness, deep loss or intense challenges. Faced with the difficulties of life, we might experience a lack of purpose and feel stuck and alone, without direction or guidance. We might feel overwhelmed with anxiety, anger, depression, worries linked to work or relationship issues and be at a loss of how to cope and what to do. Even if we decide that soldiering on is the answer, and try to pretend that everything is fine; this coping system will ultimately fail to provide a solution as long as the root of the problem remains unaddressed.
Does life feel like it is getting on top of you?
Are you feeling stuck, stressed or anxious?
Do your relationship issues seem unsolvable?
Are you looking for individual psychotherapy or couples counselling online?
Welcome to my site. I am a BACP Senior Accredited psychotherapist with over 11 years of experience working with individuals and couples online and face to face. I am certified in life coaching and I received specialised training in online counselling.
Online counselling allows me the flexibility to offer you affordable bespoke therapy and life coaching sessions wherever you are in the world and at the time of your choice. Video and telephone sessions as well as written exchanges are conducted via encrypted platforms.
Online psychotherapy can help you if you are:
Throughout the course of online psychotherapy or online couples counselling, my role is to help you better understand yourself and find your own answers rather than giving you advice.
What to Expect from Online Counselling
Computer-mediated technology offers client and therapist flexibility both timewise and distance-wise.
You have the option to select video meetings, audio sessions, or written exchanges either synchronous (in real time) or asynchronous (delayed messaging). Video and telephone sessions typically last 50 minutes. Synchronous written exchanges are conducted via Instant Messenger (IM) and last 60 minutes. Should you choose to communicate by email, I will spend 60 minutes reading and responding to your message and I will reply within 48 hours. All sessions are conducted via an encrypted platform as this ensures that contents of exchanges remain confidential and inaccessible to a third party. With respect to confidentiality, I am a registered Data Controller and Data Processor and I abide by regulations imposed by such procedures. In order to benefit from online counselling, it is vital to have access to a safe place free of interruption
What to Expect from Individual Counselling
Here are some of the ways e-therapy can be of benefit to you:
Feeling heard and understood – Counsellors are trained to listen without judging or criticising. Their job is to accept you unconditionally, to meet you where you are, and to work from your perspective. This approach creates a safe environment which enables you to explore difficult and challenging feelings. Where there is no judgment, there is no need to defend ourselves.
Help in facing difficult feelings – Unprocessed, stuck emotions hold you back. Sharing your concerns and fears with someone who acknowledges them and helps you explore them can bring great relief. The empathic stance of your therapist can help you feel less alone in facing your negative thoughts, feelings, and habit patterns. In this way, counselling facilitates your journey into taking the first steps to deal with your emotions in a healthy manner.
Support in exploring options – A counsellor does not to give advice or solve problems, but rather, through attentive listening, their role is to guide you toward finding your own solutions. As you gain a better understanding of your feelings and thought processes, you are likely to develop ways to get unstuck and make the changes you wish to see.
Develop a better understanding of yourself – Most of us function on automatic pilot. Our past circumstances and experiences serve as the foundation for our beliefs about ourselves and others. From our observations and beliefs, we develop strategies for dealing with life, sometimes called rules for living. A better insight into your rules for living, how and why you created them, can help you understand the ways you think, feel, act and react, in turn allowing you to take control.
What to Expect from Couples Counselling
Couples counselling offers you the opportunity to better understand your partner, explain your concerns in a safe environment, identify your wants and needs, express your hopes and dreams, manage your differences of opinion, and explore your resources both as individuals and as a couple.
The focus of the therapy is the relationship, rather than each one of you; this involves exploring patterns of relating and trying to work out where these patterns come from.
In addition to evident causes of conflict such as money, children and sex, relationships falter as a result of miscommunication and lack of recognition or validation from the other.
The job of a couple counsellor is to help you identify and work out your difficulties and find ways to manage conflicts of interest and sources of frustration, rather than determining who is right and who is wrong; or giving you advice as to whether you should stay together or separate. The counsellor guides you to learn to listen more effectively and overcome barriers such as self-defensive behaviours, while also supporting you to express how you feel without necessarily blaming the other.
The purpose of couples counselling is not to ‘fix’ the relationship but to facilitate communication to help you both reconnect and achieve the best outcome for the relationship. This sometimes means that couples counselling can become about providing support toward separation. Regardless of the outcome, it enables each individual to understand both themselves and the relationship better.